On the Job by Anita Bruzzese How to Know If Youre a Toxic Sponge

On the Job by Anita Bruzzese How to Know If You're a Toxic Sponge Are you the one that colleagues or your boss turn to when there is a crisis or they just need to unload their negative baggage? Do you then feel pressure to fix whatever is going wrong as they walk away feeling better from having unloaded their troubles on you? If so, you may be a toxic sponge. While others find your calm demeanor and attentive presence reassuring and comforting, the reality is that you can only absorb so much negativity. After a while, you will begin topay a pricefor a willingness to take on the troubles of others, and it may start to impact your own work or personal life. The key is that you have to set limits. Maybe you like being a trusted employee or colleague and want to feel that you can be counted on in times of trouble. But there are ways to do that while still maintaining an emotional equilibrium that lets you be of service without absorbing all that negativity. Consider: Knowing when to step aside.You dont become a mental health professional just by watching Dr. Phil. If a colleague or boss has serious problems such as an addiction, an abusive relationship or comes to you again and again with the same complaints, then its time to suggest they seek professional help. Dont try to be an armchair psychiatrist. Learn to back off from this person so he or she will be forced to admit professional assistance is needed. As long as you continue to absorb the problem, things wont get better. Setting limits.When youre a toxic sponge, others may not recognize that youre overloaded because you seem to so calmly accept whatever they say and want to help. But youve got to learn to set your own parameters of how (read more here)